the school for couples

The following articles will hopefully give you some good ideas and insights into the challenges you face in your relationship and the type of work you could be doing to improve your relationship. Please feel free to download these to your own computer and of course, to share them with your partner. Click on the underlined link to go to the full article. If you have any questions about what you read, please feel free to email us. Check back frequently on the site because we are add articles regularly.

Heads I go, Tails I leave

Another way to say it might be... “too good to leave, too bad to stay”. If you’re in a relationship that seems to have as many bad days as good, as many painful characteristics as loving ones, then you do indeed need to do some soul searching.

How to Resolve ANY Conflict

Managing differences in a relationship is one of the most difficult of skills. We come from different families with our own unique expectations of what marriage should be like and how many things should be done. Show me a marriage without conflict and I’ll show you a couple on the way to divorce!

Listening Doesn’t Mean Just Being Quiet

When my husband says Pause! to me I stop talking. Immediately. I don’t want to; in fact I’m usually ‘on a roll’ when he says it and it’s the last thing I want to do. However, if I continue talking I know that he has stopped listening.

To us, PAUSE means: “Please stop talking. I’m triggered or my attention has been taken by a sudden internal thought process and I can’t hear you. I want to hear you what you have to say so please give me a few moments to bring my attention back to you.”

Speak Their Love Language If You Want Your Love To Show

Have you seen the commercial for Visa that says “if life were like that, you wouldn’t need a Visa?”
Along with myths about getting a free ride, there’s a common myth about relationship: “As long as we love each other, our relationship will stay strong and healthy”.

20 Minutes a Day is Preventative Maintenance for Relationships

Have you ever wondered where the spark went? Did things seem to change after you said, "I do"? So often in our relationships our "cups" become empty from meeting the physical, emotional needs of others. There is little time and space for self let alone the time, energy and creativity needed to nurture our relationship with our partner.  This is especially true in the early years of child rearing. The exciting news is that this is very normal and you can get that flame back, even stronger and better than before.